Strict obedience to the rules take its roots in the childhood. Family educational system in Japan seems incomprehensible at first glance. However, once you learn more about it, you start to see the wisdom in it.
One of the major principles of child education is based on such Japanese cultural feature as cooperation. Opposite to Western societies where the accent is made on the personality development and individualism, Japanese families are focusing the attention on the importance of cooperation.
In Japanese culture a woman was always responsible for the education of a child. Despite the rise of gender equality in the modern society a woman in Japan is mainly considered as a wife and mother. Also today many Japanese women after giving a birth leave their jobs and devote themselves to the child. The connection between mother and child is very close and remains close throughout the life. Young families do not rely on grandparents. The responsibility to educate the kid fully rests on mother’s shoulders. Women who prefer to send a child to the nursery as early as possible in order to continue the career are considered selfish.
The educational system in Japan can be best described in terms of conflict-free relationships. Nobody ever screams on a kid if he did something wrong. Comments about misbehavior can be quietly made only by family members. Other people around won’t even glance at the kid, as according to Japanese culture the education of someone else’s child is out of turn.
According to Japanese educational system ikudzi the child until 5 years old is a celestial. Parents do not scream on the child and do not punish him. Words such as “not allowed”, “dangerous” and “bad” do not exist. The child is free in his cognitive activities of discovering the world around him. From the period of 5 til 15 years old the child according to the ikudzi system is treated “like a slave”. During this period of time the child is educated under strict system of rules and restrictions, which he must follow. The failure to do so may result in unacceptance by the society, which is the worst possible outcome for a Samurai descendant. However, even during this time nobody is using the power and authority to punish the child or change his behavior. The mother never screams at her child. She does not argue with him, but expresses her dissatisfaction indirectly instead: she makes him to understand that his misbehavior is upsetting her. After 15 years old the child is treated equally to an adult and considered as a grownup, who knows his responsibilities and perfectly obeys the rules. The paradox is that a child given freedom from the early childhood becomes a highly educated member of society with excellent manners.